How to Look For The Best In People + Situations
What does that mean exactly?
Have you ever been in a situation where everyone else thinks something is ugly and you think it’s beautiful, or at the very least intriguing?
Or everyone you know dislikes a certain person but for some unfathomable reason, you actually like them? And you are too afraid to admit it!
Or you think back to some of the decisions you chose in your life and you want to cringe because you think they were awful decisions as you were the only one to go down that path?
Yes! I have been there too, but do you know what I have found out, that it’s OK to be the odd one out because I was looking for the beauty and because no-one else could see it doesn’t matter in the long run. But it certainly doesn’t feel like that at the time.
It’s interesting because at the time it’s really hard to be the odd one out, the one person that can’t seem to “fit in” with what everyone else is “seeing”.
Why Do We See Things Differently From Other People?
Let’s pause and look at that for a moment, this concept of “seeing” which is actually “perception”.
The definition of “perception” is “a way of regarding, understanding, or interpreting something; a mental impression“.
What we always want to do is fit in with other people. We would like to be part of the group, always seeing what they are seeing, always agreeing with the group’s sense of the world.
Being Brave + Standing Out
Ah, it’s tough, this standing out business.
We don’t want to “stand out”, we want to blend in and not make a noise and not make a scene or draw attention to ourselves.
But that is not being true to who you are as a person. You are not owning your own value.
To really choose beauty in life means that we know that the reality of the situation is not always perfect or great but we are making a choice to see it for what it is worth, and this may be beautiful.
Situations in life present themselves in the strangest of ways. We can be so assured of our path and then something comes along to derail us and we are frustrated by this “new reality”.
I know because I have been there. Being diagnosed with cancer is truly one of the hardest reality checks that there is. But I refused to see the awfulness of it and instead chose to see the beauty.
And no, I don’t believe that it is looking through rose-colored spectacles. I made a choice on how I perceived my reality.
What do I mean? Here are some techniques you can apply in similar situations:
Choosing To Look For The Beauty
- Focus on people. And own your belief about them. Extend gratitude towards the people who are helping you, feel their passion and their knowledge. Be confident in your gratitude, don’t be swayed by what other people are saying.
- Your space is where you are meant to be. Look around you, see how you have a “home”, it doesn’t matter where it is or why you are there. Take a moment to find something beautiful about your surroundings.
- Stop overthinking. It’s OK to be who you are, you don’t have to look at the world the same as everyone else, you have every right to be different.
- Slow Down! It’s difficult to even see clearly when we are rushing about all over the place. And sometimes we create that busyness so that we don’t have to confront our reality. I understand that I create an environment myself that is sometimes overwhelming busy so that I don’t have to sit down and think about what I really need to do. But once we slow down and “stop and smell the roses” we can think clearly and then often times we see the beauty in that situation, that the toughness we need is attainable.
- Your passion is not defined by other people. Don’t be afraid to step up and into who you are meant to be, even if that is slightly kooky and off the wall. Don’t hesitate to love what you do even if it means other people think it is ridiculous or silly. You’ve chosen that passion and it’s the “beauty in your life”.
You Are Not Alone
Finally, I want to reassure you that you are not alone. There are so many of us who have a different perception of reality and that’s totally fine.
Life can knock us, and they can be really hard knocks. But we have to choose to get back up again and how we look back at that moment is up to you.
You can choose to see the lesson and find the beauty or you can have it dragging you down for the rest of your life.
Looking for the beauty and changing the perception of your reality is YOUR CHOICE. You get to decide how you want to look at the pictures of your life.
And remember that the beauty you find in life is certainly not always going to align with how the rest of the world sees things. You may find yourself “standing out” and you can do it.
I’ve got your back.